1A cold-blooded animal that catches its dinner after dark cannot digest it until the sun comes back. It has the meal and it cannot use it.
That is what it looks like when good things only count once somebody else notices. The work is finished, the result is in, and it means nothing until a particular person says something about it. If you recognise that, the thing to practise is small and slightly awkward: register what you did before anyone has weighed in on it.
Islamic evidence
Those who are saved from their own meanness will be the prosperous ones (Quran 64:16). Prosperity is put on the far side of a person's own smallness rather than on the far side of what they have gathered.
“be mindful of God as much as you can; hear and obey; be charitable- it is for your own good. Those who are saved from their own meanness will be the prosperous ones”
Qur'an 64:16
Psychological evidence
After a knock to how they saw their bodies, 153 people were randomly given a brief self-compassion, self-esteem or distraction writing task, and the groups differed afterwards in dissatisfaction and in motivation to improve. So what you do in the minutes after a knock does make some difference. It was a single session in a laboratory, which is a long way from a habit.
Moffitt RL, Neumann DL, Williamson SP. (2018). Body image · doi
Review detail
Why it works. If the warmth has to come from outside, what you earned sits there unused until it arrives.