1Sourness, shutting down, snapping at everyone: these are as often worry as they are attitude. The person is not giving you a hard time, they are having one.
This matters because of what happens next. Read it as rudeness and the house responds with punishment, which adds to the load that produced the snapping in the first place. Read it as anxiety and you can ask what is going on underneath, later, when things are quiet. Consequences may still be needed for how someone speaks to you. They just work better when nobody has decided the person is simply difficult.
Islamic evidence
If a prompting from Satan should stir you, seek refuge with God (Quran 41:36). It is given in the middle of guidance about responding well to provocation, which is exactly where this lands.
“If a prompting from Satan should stir you, seek refuge with God: He is the All Hearing and the All Knowing”
Qur'an 41:36
Psychological evidence
In a cross sectional study, rumination accounted for part of the relationship between post traumatic stress symptoms and angry reactions. Going over things internally sits between distress and the temper that shows on the outside. The analysis was cross sectional, so the direction of that relationship is not established.
Christ NM, Contractor AA, Wang X, Elhai JD. (2020). Psychological trauma : theory, research, practice and policy · doi
Review detail
Why it works. Treating anxious irritability as bad character adds pressure to what is already too much.