Calling it self medication instead of a failure of character changes what you do next. You stop trying to out-discipline the craving and start asking what would meet the same need with a longer tail: eating something before you reach the desperate stage, protein alongside the carbohydrate, getting outside, company. The craving usually softens once the low is being met somewhere else as well.

Two things help more often than they get suggested. Cutting caffeine frequently settles symptoms on its own, since it speeds the gut up and raises acid. And there are talking therapies designed specifically for irritable bowel, which work on the stress side rather than the food side. A low FODMAP approach is worth exploring with a dietitian, though it is fiddly and not meant to be permanent.

You do not have to establish which came first. Easing the pressure on your nervous system helps digestion, steadying what you eat helps mood, and either one loosens the loop a little. Pick whichever is more within reach this week rather than waiting until you can do both properly.

Talk about being good or bad closes the conversation down. Curiosity keeps it open, and it tends to surface the actual job the food is doing, which is often soothing something that has nowhere else to go. Once you know what it is for, you can look for a second way of meeting the same need rather than running on willpower alone. Slower, but it holds.

Digestion mostly happens when your body believes it is safe. If you eat every meal with your shoulders up round your ears, that alone can show up as cramping, bloating or a stomach that never quite settles. Food reactions then add their own load on top. Which is why slowing the meal down and questioning the food often need to happen together.