It reads colder written down than it lands in the room. What the person needs is to feel believed. What they do not need is a second person weighing up whether the thing could happen. Put the warmth into the feeling and keep it out of the details, and if they press you for a verdict, you can say honestly that answering would help for a minute and cost them later.

These thoughts sit at the far end from wanting. They horrify you, which is exactly why they stick to you. The work goes on what you have decided the thought says about you, not on rehearsing the scene, and anyone treating you should draw that line clearly rather than handling it like a fear of lifts.

Debating your moral standing is where this gets its fuel, and every reassurance you win, from a friend, an imam, a search at midnight, buys less time than the one before. Saying the name out loud is the more useful move. Being young makes it harder still, because so much else is unfinished about what kind of person you are.