1Your alarm learned from something real, then started answering to things that merely resemble it. A rustle in the grass gets the same jolt as the animal that first taught you to run.
It helps to say to yourself, that was the sound, not the thing. The response is not stupid. It was built from a real event and it spread to whatever looked or sounded close enough, which is what learning does. Once you can spot the resemblance, you can let the surge finish and then check what is actually in front of you.
Islamic evidence
Yet man prays for harm, just as he prays for good: man is ever hasty (Quran 17:11). Being quick off the mark, ahead of what is actually there, is described as ordinary human wiring rather than a defect.
“Yet man prays for harm, just as he prays for good: man is ever hasty”
Qur'an 17:11
Psychological evidence
A systematic review of brain imaging studies in generalised anxiety disorder asked whether the scans back up the cognitive models clinicians teach, and found the neurobiological base is still thin. So the picture of a learned alarm is a useful teaching story more than a proven mechanism. Its worth is that people can catch themselves with it, not that imaging has confirmed it.
Mochcovitch MD, da Rocha Freire RC, Garcia RF, Nardi AE. (2014). Journal of affective disorders · doi
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Why it works. An alarm learned in one situation will fire at anything similar until new experience teaches it otherwise.
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none yet2When the alarm takes over, the reasoning part of you goes quiet for a while. That is not you losing your mind. It comes back on its own.
People often frighten themselves twice: once with whatever set them off, and again with the sense that they have lost control of their own head. Knowing the thinking part temporarily hands over makes the second fright much smaller. Expect to be poor at arguments and decisions while it is away, and leave anything that matters until it is back.
Islamic evidence
God wishes to lighten your burden; man was created weak (Quran 4:28). Being easily overwhelmed is treated here as part of how we are made, not as something to be ashamed of.
“God wishes to lighten your burden; man was created weak”
Qur'an 4:28
Psychological evidence
A meta-analysis found that people high in repetitive negative thinking show measurable difficulty controlling what sits in working memory, which offers one explanation for why clear thinking is so hard to reach at those moments. It describes an association pooled across studies rather than proving that the worry causes the deficit. It does fit the everyday experience of not being able to move your own attention.
Zetsche U, Bürkner PC, Schulze L. (2018). Clinical psychology review · doi
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Why it works. Knowing the loss of clear thinking is temporary keeps you from panicking about the panic.
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none yet3A car coming at you and a spider across the room set off the same alarm. Naming which one you are facing, before you act on it, is a skill worth practising.
Say it plainly to yourself: this is dangerous, or this is uncomfortable. Both are true of different things and the second does not require you to leave. The alarm was built out of experience, which means new experience can teach it something else, but only if you stay long enough for the lesson to happen.
Islamic evidence
God is enough for me: there is no god but Him; I put my trust in Him (Quran 9:129). A short line to hold while you stay put and let the alarm learn.
“If they turn away, [Prophet], say ,‘God is enough for me: there is no god but Him; I put my trust in Him; He is the Lord of the Mighty Throne.’”
Qur'an 9:129
Psychological evidence
A randomised clinical trial tested a tightly focused treatment in which adults with generalised anxiety disorder ran small behavioural experiments to check their beliefs about uncertainty, and it helped them. Testing a fear rather than reasoning with it has direct support. It was one trial of one specific package, so read it as a good sign rather than the last word.
Dugas MJ, Sexton KA, Hebert EA, Bouchard S, Gouin JP, Shafran R. (2022). Behavior therapy · doi
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Why it works. The alarm updates from what actually happens, so it needs you to stay and find out.