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Anger

Almost nobody wants to be the person who says the thing they cannot take back. The window between the surge and the words is short and it can be widened. That is most of what this area is about, along with the fear or hurt that anger is usually protecting.

What works for this

Anger control, with distress tolerance

Anger has a runway, and the earlier you step onto it the less force you need. The work is in the seconds before, not in the explosion, and it starts with the body rather than the thought.

One move, today

Name the first physical sign you get. Jaw, chest, hands, heat in the face. That sign is your only warning, and noticing it is the whole skill.

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1 practice

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If anger in your home has become frightening for anyone, self help is not the right tool. Please reach for real help.

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Another course here · 40 minutesThe moment before you snapSix short lessons on the few seconds between something happening and you going off. It explains why the body arrives before the thought, why thinking…Everything in this areaAnger