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Anger
Almost nobody wants to be the person who says the thing they cannot take back. The window between the surge and the words is short and it can be widened. That is most of what this area is about, along with the fear or hurt that anger is usually protecting.
What works for this
Anger control, with distress tolerance
Anger has a runway, and the earlier you step onto it the less force you need. The work is in the seconds before, not in the explosion, and it starts with the body rather than the thought.
One move, today
Name the first physical sign you get. Jaw, chest, hands, heat in the face. That sign is your only warning, and noticing it is the whole skill.
What matches
2 practicesIf you held back at four o'clock and then snapped at seven, the holding back still happened. A later slip does not reach backwards and cancel it.
All or nothing scoring is the quickest route from one lapse to giving the whole thing up: I lost it, so none of it was working, so why bother. Count…
The old angry route does not get deleted. What you are building is a rival route beside it, and at the start the new one is small.
Expect the old path to show up when you are tired, ill or caught off guard, because it is still there and it is well worn. That is not proof the work…