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Your body
You cannot think your way out of a body that is braced. This area starts there: the breath, the ground under you, moving, eating, resting, and the small physical things that change how the rest of the day lands.
What works for this
Working from the body first
A body that has not slept, eaten or moved has less left over for holding itself steady. Changing the state you are in is often faster than changing the thoughts you are having, and it is more reliable when you are already worn out.
One move, today
A long slow out breath, longer than the in breath, three times. The out breath is the part that does the work.
What matches
8 practicesBefore inviting anyone to turn attention to their body, ask first. How do you feel about trying this now, and would you like to?
The asking is part of the practice, not the preamble to it. Someone whose body was once not theirs to control needs the choice handed back in small…
A long body practice is a teaching version. In real life, take one small piece: just the feet, just the hands, just a minute of noticing.
Long stretches of inward attention can tip into flooding or into drifting off, and neither leaves you better than you started. A minute done often…
Try going into the next few minutes without deciding in advance what will happen in them. Curiosity in place of prediction.
A mind used to danger plans constantly, because planning once kept you safe. Sitting somewhere ordinary and letting the next moment be unknown is…
The benefit of a settling practice is cumulative. A fortnight of it now and then does little; the people who get most out of it are the ones who kept going for years.
This cuts both ways, and both are worth knowing. Two weeks of daily practice with no obvious result is not proof that it will not work for you. And…
Your mind wandering off during meditation is not you failing at it. Noticing that it went, and coming back, is the whole exercise.
People with restless attention often try meditation, find their head full of noise, decide they are uniquely bad at it and never go back. Nobody…
Think of your thoughts as traffic on a road. Practice thins the traffic. It does not close the road, and nobody has ever managed to close it.
This is a more useful target than clearing your mind, because you can tell whether it is happening. Some days it is bumper to bumper and the practice…
Five minutes chosen for the state you are actually in beats twenty minutes of open sitting. Pick the one labelled stressed, or cannot sleep, or about to walk into work.
Two things end a practice early: it was longer than the attention you had that day, and you had to decide what to do before you could start. Short…
If you are going to try a mindfulness course, give it the full eight weeks before deciding. Expect a real but moderate change rather than a different life.
Courses of this length help a good number of people and do very little for others, which is worth knowing at the start so that being in the second…