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Low mood and hard feelings
Feelings are information before they are problems. The practices here are about naming what you feel accurately, sitting with what will not move yet, and acting on what matters to you even on the days nothing feels like anything.
What works for this
Behavioural activation
The strongest self help evidence in this whole field says the way out of a flat heavy state is through what you do, not through what you think. You act first and the feeling follows, which is the opposite of what the state tells you.
One move, today
Choose one small thing you used to do and do it today without waiting to feel like it. Ten minutes is enough. Waiting to feel like it is the trap.
What matches
3 practicesWhen a feeling grips you, name it in one plain word: this is anger, this is fear, this is hurt.
Not a story about why. Just the name. Putting the feeling into a word loosens its hold.
Give the feeling a number from zero to ten, and watch the number instead of obeying it.
A rating turns a wave you are inside into something you are measuring from the shore.
Under the anger, name the softer feeling: often it is fear, or hurt, or feeling unseen.
Anger is a bodyguard. Name what it is guarding, and it begins to soften.