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Focus, starting, and ADHD
Most advice about focus is written for a brain that starts easily. This area is not. It covers what ADHD actually is, how to make a start when starting is the hard part, how to bring a future consequence close enough to feel, and how to stop paying for it in shame.
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Implementation intentions
Putting things off is mood repair rather than laziness: delay removes the bad feeling straight away and the cost lands later. So the move is not more willpower, it is a plan specific enough to run without a decision.
One move, today
Write one sentence: when it is [time] and I am at [place], I will [the first small action]. Naming when and where is the part the evidence supports.
What matches
2 practicesWhen you agree to something, agree who follows up. Do you tell them if it slips, or do they check in with you?
Most of the hurt around late work comes from nobody having said. You assume they will ask, they assume you will speak up, and the silence in between…
If you keep it all in your head, it is worth asking who else is keeping it. Very often somebody nearby is doing the remembering, and neither of you has ever said so out loud.
This matters because from outside it looks like coping, right up until that person is away, unwell or worn out by it. Ask the plain question at home:…