Focus, starting, and ADHD

Decide at the start what you are actually aiming at. Eight difficulties down to six, then to four, then perhaps to two. Never zero, because zero was never on offer.

Everybody has some of these traits, and ADHD is largely inherited, so a life with none of it was never a realistic target for anyone. Naming a number…

Hear this before you start rather than after: change here is gradual. Habits built over twenty years do not come apart in three weeks.

Waiting is genuinely harder with ADHD, and a treatment whose reward is months away is exactly the sort of thing that gets dropped in week five.…

Part of why so many adults are coming forward now is that well known people have said out loud that they have this. Seeing someone capable say it makes the asking cost less.

The old picture of ADHD was a careless child and a lazy adult, and that picture kept a great many people from ever mentioning it. An athlete at the…

Everything has side effects, including doing nothing. The only real question is whether what you gain outweighs what it costs you.

The conversation about medication often gets set up as a risky drug against a safe natural alternative, and that is not the choice anyone is actually…

Treatment is not only about school reports. Lower rates of accidental injury and of other serious harms are reasons in their own right, even for a child whose marks are perfectly fine.

This is the answer to the question about the bright child who is coping academically and whose impulsivity worries you in traffic, on a bike, or…

ADHD tends to run in families, and the differences in reported rates between countries say more about how a country counts than about its people.

It is common to find, part way through your own assessment, that you are recognising a parent, a sibling or a child. That is not a coincidence and it…

The parts of the brain that plan and hold back keep developing into the mid twenties, so the person struggling at nineteen is not the finished version. Real gains come with time, though they do not add up to becoming someone without ADHD.

Hold that both ways. It is a reason for patience, and for not writing anybody off at nineteen. It is also a reason to plan for ongoing management…

Cognitive testing done on a day without medication can come out well below what a person can actually do. If a score is going to decide a school placement, make sure the conditions on the day are recorded.

The parts of these tests that are timed, or that ask you to hold numbers in your head, are exactly the parts untreated ADHD drags down, and they pull…

Keep two or three trustworthy places to read about ADHD and go there first. Confident, tidy explanations online are easy to find, and most of them have nobody checking them.

Look for organisations that cite their sources and say when something is uncertain, and treat a personal account as a personal account rather than as…

Explain ADHD to the child themselves, in words they can hold. Something like: your brain is brilliant at things it finds interesting and needs extra help with things it finds boring, and we are going to work out that help together.

Children build an explanation whether or not you give them one, and the one they build is usually about being bad. A short, matter of fact account,…

ADHD tends to surface at the points where life asks for more organising: a new school year with seven teachers, the first term at university, a first job, a promotion into managing other people.

The pattern is always the same. Something that was holding things together is removed, or the amount you have to run yourself goes up, and what was…

Things often seem to get worse in the weeks after a diagnosis. Usually nothing has got worse. You are simply seeing what was always there, and now you have a name to hang it on.

You will start joining things up: the lost keys, the half finished projects, the reason that job ended. It can feel like the diagnosis broke…