Lesson 1 of 6 · What shouting is actually doing

The one sentence

Noticing only this week. No promises to stop, because the promise is the thing that keeps failing.

The move

Watching the aftermath once

5 minutes or less

After the next time, wait an hour and then notice what changed.
Did the behaviour stop, and for how long?
What did the child do next. Went quiet, went away, got louder.
Write it down once. You are collecting information, not building a case against yourself.

If it does not work

If writing it down turns into self attack, stop writing and keep the noticing. The information is the point and the punishment is not.

A specific plan works better than a good intention. Fill both halves in your own words.

When

I will

Put it in your calendar

Pick a day and a time and you will get a calendar file to open. Nothing is sent anywhere.

Kept in this browser only.