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The giveaway words are always, never, everyone, typical, exactly like last time. Hearing yourself use them is a sign of the narrowing rather than a summary of the evidence. You do not have to argue with it. Simply noticing that you have gone binary tends to widen the view a little.
do not let hatred of others lead you away from justice (Quran 5:8). Justice needs the detail that a two-box view has already thrown away.
المائدة
يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ كُونُواْ قَوَّٰمِينَ لِلَّهِ شُهَدَآءَ بِٱلۡقِسۡطِۖ وَلَا يَجۡرِمَنَّكُمۡ شَنَـَٔانُ قَوۡمٍ عَلَىٰٓ أَلَّا تَعۡدِلُواْۚ ٱعۡدِلُواْ هُوَ أَقۡرَبُ لِلتَّقۡوَىٰۖ وَٱتَّقُواْ ٱللَّهَۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ خَبِيرُۢ بِمَا تَعۡمَلُونَ
You who believe, be steadfast in your devotion to God and bear witness impartially: do not let hatred of others lead you away from justice, but adhere to justice, for that is closer to awareness of God. Be mindful of God: God is well aware of all that you do
Qur’an 5:8read it in the library
Translation: M.A.S. Abdel Haleem, The Qur'an, Oxford University Press, 2004.
In a study of people with fibromyalgia, beliefs about their own thinking fed anger rumination, which in turn went with more intense pain. How you relate to your own thoughts appears to matter, not only what the thoughts happen to say. It was cross-sectional with a mediation model, so the chain is inferred rather than shown, and the group studied was a specific clinical one.
Tenti M, Raffaeli W, Fontemaggi A, Gremigni P. (2024). The relationship between metacognition, anger, and pain intensity among fibromyalgia patients: a serial mediation model.. Psychology, health & medicine doi
Strength of evidence: one line of research. A single study, or a theoretical account.
Speed costs detail, so a fast judgement is a rough one by design.
Some anger is really about being left. It flares when someone pulls away, goes quiet or seems less interested, and it comes out as an accusation rather than as the fear it is.
You will meet striking claims about which genes or which brain region produce your temper. Interesting is not the same as established, and none of it should settle what you think of yourself.
Anger is a genuine body event, not a thought you can talk yourself out of mid-flow. Expect it to keep running for a while after you have decided it should stop.