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Both put the strength where it actually is. Not answering is usually read as losing, and it takes far more out of you than replying does. Ask them of yourself when things are calm, since neither question is much use invented on the spot.
Have no fear or grief (Quran 41:30). It is said to those who kept to the straight path, which pairs steadiness under pressure with the settling of fear.
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إِنَّ ٱلَّذِينَ قَالُواْ رَبُّنَا ٱللَّهُ ثُمَّ ٱسۡتَقَٰمُواْ تَتَنَزَّلُ عَلَيۡهِمُ ٱلۡمَلَٰٓئِكَةُ أَلَّا تَخَافُواْ وَلَا تَحۡزَنُواْ وَأَبۡشِرُواْ بِٱلۡجَنَّةِ ٱلَّتِي كُنتُمۡ تُوعَدُونَ
As for those who say, ‘Our Lord is God,’ and take the straight path towards Him, the angels come down to them and say, ‘Have no fear or grief, but rejoice in the good news of Paradise, which you have been promised
Qur’an 41:30read it in the library
Translation: M.A.S. Abdel Haleem, The Qur'an, Oxford University Press, 2004.
A meta-analysis across 26 studies of adults with generalised anxiety found that psychological treatment produced large reductions in intolerance of uncertainty, and that those reductions tracked improvement in symptoms. The capacity to sit in an unresolved state is trainable rather than fixed. It was studied in one diagnosis, and things improving together does not establish which one moved first.
Wilson EJ, Abbott MJ, Norton AR. (2023). The impact of psychological treatment on intolerance of uncertainty in generalized anxiety disorder: A systematic review and meta-analysis.. Journal of anxiety disorders doi
Strength of evidence: one line of research. A single study, or a theoretical account.
Holding still under provocation is effortful, and calling it what it is makes it something to attempt rather than something to be ashamed of.
Fear explains a great deal of anger, but not all of it. Sometimes you are simply blocked from something you wanted and nothing is threatening you at all.
Fear moves you away from what frightens you. Anger turns you round and marches you into it, which is how something meant to keep you safe becomes the thing that puts you in danger.
Losing your temper is the easy move. Staying with the fear underneath is the hard one, in the way that dropping something is easier than holding it steady on your fingertip.