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Fast minds are common and they are not a disqualification. When too much is going past to mark, mark that. The exercise is not a race against your own head, and the moment you notice you are behind is itself a moment of noticing, which is the only thing being trained.
Seek help with steadfastness and prayer (Quran 2:45). The verse goes on to admit plainly that this is hard, which is a kinder starting point than expecting it to come easily.
البقرة
وَٱسۡتَعِينُواْ بِٱلصَّبۡرِ وَٱلصَّلَوٰةِۚ وَإِنَّهَا لَكَبِيرَةٌ إِلَّا عَلَى ٱلۡخَٰشِعِينَ
Seek help with steadfastness and prayer- though this is hard indeed for anyone but the humble
Qur’an 2:45read it in the library
Translation: M.A.S. Abdel Haleem, The Qur'an, Oxford University Press, 2004.
A meta analysis found that young people with ADHD reliably preferred smaller immediate rewards over larger delayed ones, which makes difficulty waiting a measurable difference between people rather than a character flaw. Minds genuinely run at different speeds and with different amounts of patience available. The finding is about children and adolescents with a specific diagnosis, so it is context for self kindness rather than a description of you.
Patros CH, Alderson RM, Kasper LJ, Tarle SJ, Lea SE, Hudec KL. (2016). Choice-impulsivity in children and adolescents with attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD): A meta-analytic review.. Clinical psychology review doi
Strength of evidence: one line of research. A single study, or a theoretical account.
Folding the complaint into the practice means the practice has no way of turning into another failure.
If a river on a summer afternoon does nothing for you, use something plainer. Counting the traffic from a porch, or standing outside a shop counting how many people walk past, does the same job.
What you are doing when you sit on the bank has a name. Researchers call it metacognitive distancing, and it has been studied for decades.
It helps to get one real taste of this early, in a single sitting, rather than waiting weeks to find out whether any of it is for you.