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No cushion is involved, no mantra, nothing to schedule. The point is to rehearse the shape of the thing many times a day at almost no cost: impulse, pause, choice. When something real comes at you, that shape is already familiar to your hand.
Believers, remember God often (Quran 33:41). The instruction is about frequency rather than intensity, which is exactly how a small move becomes second nature.
الأحزاب
يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ ٱذۡكُرُواْ ٱللَّهَ ذِكۡرࣰ ا كَثِيرࣰ ا
Believers, remember God often
Qur’an 33:41read it in the library
Translation: M.A.S. Abdel Haleem, The Qur'an, Oxford University Press, 2004.
Two randomised trials found that mental contrasting combined with if then plans reduced bedtime procrastination, a habit that survives ordinary good intentions. They were about sleep rather than about impulse control at the dinner table. What they show is that small structured plans can shift stubborn everyday behaviour, which is the modest claim being made here.
Valshtein TJ, Oettingen G, Gollwitzer PM. (2020). Using mental contrasting with implementation intentions to reduce bedtime procrastination: two randomised trials.. Psychology & health doi
Strength of evidence: one line of research. A single study, or a theoretical account.
Doing the same small move in many ordinary places is what makes it available in an unfamiliar one.
Sit still, choose a position, and hold it. Within seconds your body will be asking to move the chin or scratch the neck, and each of those small urges is a free repetition of letting an impulse pass.
One or two minutes every day will do more for you than forty minutes once a week. The long sit sounds serious and is mostly a good way to end up dreading it.
Sometimes you can feel the whole exchange lined up before it starts: your line, then theirs, then the door. Leaving your line out is enough to stop the sequence that once.