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That is the honest size of the claim. You will not think your way out of a flare by breathing, but you may notice that there is more than one thing you could do next, and noticing that is most of the work. Give it a minute or two rather than a few token breaths, since this is a slow effect rather than a switch.
Go at a moderate pace and lower your voice (Quran 31:19). Slowing the outward pace is treated as something you can simply do, and the breath is the smallest version of it.
لقمان
وَٱقۡصِدۡ فِي مَشۡيِكَ وَٱغۡضُضۡ مِن صَوۡتِكَۚ إِنَّ أَنكَرَ ٱلۡأَصۡوَٰتِ لَصَوۡتُ ٱلۡحَمِيرِ
Go at a moderate pace and lower your voice, for the ugliest of all voices is the braying of asses.’
Qur’an 31:19read it in the library
Translation: M.A.S. Abdel Haleem, The Qur'an, Oxford University Press, 2004.
In a randomised trial, five weeks of daily slow breathing practice in one hundred and six young adults changed how emotion-related brain regions coordinated with each other, which suggests body-first practice can reach the systems involved in regulation. Note what that does and does not show: it is about weeks of practice and brain measures, not about better decisions in a specific argument. The reading on anger in particular should stay modest.
Nashiro K, Min J, Yoo HJ, Cho C, Bachman SL, Dutt S, Thayer JF, Lehrer PM, Feng T, Mercer N, Nasseri P, Wang D, Chang C, Marmarelis VZ, Narayanan S, Nation DA, Mather M. (2023). Increasing coordination and responsivity of emotion-related brain regions with a heart rate variability biofeedback randomized trial.. Cognitive, affective & behavioral neuroscience doi
Strength of evidence: one line of research. A single study, or a theoretical account.
A slower body leaves a little more room for choosing, because there is less pressure pushing the first response out.
Anger numbs. If it is doing the work of a painkiller for you, it will be hard to put down while the pain underneath is still untreated.
In a hostile exchange, try a slow hmm instead of a reply. It sounds like someone thinking, and it puts a long out breath in the way of whatever you were about to say.
The out breath is the part that quiets things down. Cells in the brain's alarm centres behave differently across the two phases of a breath, and breathing out is the calming side of that cycle.