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Keep the paper. It is a small undeniable demonstration that you make patterns as much as you find them. The next time you are certain what somebody meant by a look, the same machinery was running, faster and with a great deal more at stake.
No soul knows what it will reap tomorrow (Quran 31:34). You know rather less than the picture in your head is telling you.
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إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ عِندَهُۥ عِلۡمُ ٱلسَّاعَةِ وَيُنَزِّلُ ٱلۡغَيۡثَ وَيَعۡلَمُ مَا فِي ٱلۡأَرۡحَامِۖ وَمَا تَدۡرِي نَفۡسࣱ مَّاذَا تَكۡسِبُ غَدࣰ اۖ وَمَا تَدۡرِي نَفۡسُۢ بِأَيِّ أَرۡضࣲ تَمُوتُۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ عَلِيمٌ خَبِيرُۢ
Knowledge of the Hour [of Resurrection] belongs to God; it is He who sends down the relieving rain and He who knows what is hidden in the womb. No soul knows what it will reap tomorrow, and no soul knows in what land it will die; it is God who is all knowing and all aware
Qur’an 31:34read it in the library
Translation: M.A.S. Abdel Haleem, The Qur'an, Oxford University Press, 2004.
Within a randomised relapse prevention trial, the capacity to see thoughts as passing mental events grew specifically in the group given mindfulness based cognitive therapy, rather than in the medication or placebo groups, and it tracked with how well that treatment worked. Watching your own certainty being assembled is a version of that shift. It is a process analysis inside one trial, which describes a mechanism rather than proving one.
Peter Bieling; Lance L. Hawley; Richard T. Bloch; Kathleen Corcoran; Robert D. Levitan; L. Trevor Young (2012). Treatment-specific changes in decentering following mindfulness-based cognitive therapy versus antidepressant medication or placebo for prevention of depressive relapse.. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology doi
Strength of evidence: one line of research. A single study, or a theoretical account.
Catching yourself inventing a pattern that is not on the page makes it easier to doubt the ones you invent about people.
When someone protests that swallowing their feelings is unnatural, agree with them, because it is. Then add the part they have not said: it is also necessary, and there are better ways to do it than swallowing.
Queueing, splitting a bill fairly, sharing a road with strangers: all of this is recent. We have had a few thousand years of practice at it, against a much longer history of living another way.
Angry memories come back in extraordinary detail: the tilt of the head, the exact words, the door. That vividness is what a threatened body does with a memory, not proof that the event deserves the room it is taking.