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That bias is old and cheap insurance rather than stupidity. Knowing it is running lets you add a second look before you act, especially with thin material: a short message, a tone over the phone, a face across a room. Ask whether this is a face or a curtain.
God is enough for me: there is no god but Him; I put my trust in Him (Quran 9:129). Something to say when the alarm goes off, before you act as though it were certainly true.
التوبة
فَإِن تَوَلَّوۡاْ فَقُلۡ حَسۡبِيَ ٱللَّهُ لَآ إِلَٰهَ إِلَّا هُوَۖ عَلَيۡهِ تَوَكَّلۡتُۖ وَهُوَ رَبُّ ٱلۡعَرۡشِ ٱلۡعَظِيمِ
If they turn away, [Prophet], say ,‘God is enough for me: there is no god but Him; I put my trust in Him; He is the Lord of the Mighty Throne.’
Qur’an 9:129read it in the library
Translation: M.A.S. Abdel Haleem, The Qur'an, Oxford University Press, 2004.
Across eleven randomised trials and five single-arm studies, mindfulness based interventions reduced symptoms of social anxiety, a condition built largely on reading threat into other people. Comparisons against active treatments were limited, so how these programmes rank against other therapies is unclear. What they show is that habitual threat reading is treatable.
Liu X, Yi P, Ma L, Liu W, Deng W, Yang X, Liang M, Luo J, Li N, Li X. (2021). Mindfulness-based interventions for social anxiety disorder: A systematic review and meta-analysis.. Psychiatry research doi
Strength of evidence: one line of research. A single study, or a theoretical account.
A detector tuned never to miss will raise false alarms, so some of your certainty about people is simply noise.
Being steady about something does not mean you approve of it, and it does not mean you have dropped your claim. It means you have stopped fighting the fact that it happened.
People have held themselves still through pain most of us cannot imagine. That does not make your Tuesday easier, but it moves the question from whether restraint is possible to how much you have trained.
If you are still polishing the reply weeks afterwards, the argument is not still running. The injury is, and that needs a different kind of care.