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You go in expecting contempt. What comes back is usually recognition, along with a few nods from people who have been ruder to their families than you have. That one experience, admitting weakness and not being eaten for it, does more than any explanation of where anger comes from.
made you into races and tribes so that you should recognize one another (Quran 49:13). Recognition is given as the point of the differences between people, and being recognised is exactly what happens in that room.
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يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلنَّاسُ إِنَّا خَلَقۡنَٰكُم مِّن ذَكَرࣲ وَأُنثَىٰ وَجَعَلۡنَٰكُمۡ شُعُوبࣰ ا وَقَبَآئِلَ لِتَعَارَفُوٓاْۚ إِنَّ أَكۡرَمَكُمۡ عِندَ ٱللَّهِ أَتۡقَىٰكُمۡۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ عَلِيمٌ خَبِيرࣱ
People, We created you all from a single man and a single woman, and made you into races and tribes so that you should recognize one another. In God’s eyes, the most honoured of you are the ones most mindful of Him: God is all knowing, all aware
Qur’an 49:13read it in the library
Translation: M.A.S. Abdel Haleem, The Qur'an, Oxford University Press, 2004.
A review of the main compassion-based programmes found the evidence supporting them is growing but uneven across programmes, with methodological limits in many of the trials. Group formats sit inside that mixed picture. So this is a reasonable thing to go looking for, described honestly, rather than a guaranteed course of treatment.
Kirby JN. (2017). Compassion interventions: The programmes, the evidence, and implications for research and practice.. Psychology and psychotherapy doi
Strength of evidence: one line of research. A single study, or a theoretical account.
The fear of being despised for it only fades once you say the thing and are not despised.
Telling somebody one thing you are quietly embarrassed about will bring you closer than a month of pleasant conversation.
You can drop the neuroscience and keep the instruction. Look at the person's face, and at their eyes in particular, and let what you see land on you.
Go long enough without company and almost anyone will do. That is worth knowing about yourself, and worth watching for in someone who lives alone.