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Comparison is a game rigged to make you lose. Turn your eyes back to your own path.
Do not covet what God has given to some of you more than others (Quran 4:32). Your portion is yours; measuring it against another's only unsettles the heart.
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وَلَا تَتَمَنَّوۡاْ مَا فَضَّلَ ٱللَّهُ بِهِۦ بَعۡضَكُمۡ عَلَىٰ بَعۡضࣲۚ لِّلرِّجَالِ نَصِيبࣱ مِّمَّا ٱكۡتَسَبُواْۖ وَلِلنِّسَآءِ نَصِيبࣱ مِّمَّا ٱكۡتَسَبۡنَۚ وَسۡـَٔلُواْ ٱللَّهَ مِن فَضۡلِهِۦٓۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ كَانَ بِكُلِّ شَيۡءٍ عَلِيمࣰ ا
Do not covet what God has given to some of you more than others- men have the portion they have earned; and women the portion they have earned- you should rather ask God for some of His bounty: He has full knowledge of everything
Qur’an 4:32read it in the library
Translation: M.A.S. Abdel Haleem, The Qur'an, Oxford University Press, 2004.
Habitually comparing yourself with others ties your worth to a moving target you cannot win; it reliably lowers contentment, whatever the outcome of the comparison.
Crocker, J. and Wolfe, C. T. (2001). Contingencies of self-worth. Psychological Review doi
Basing self-worth on external contingencies makes it fragile; less contingent self-worth is more stable and healthy.
Strength of evidence: one line of research. A single study, or a theoretical account.
Constant comparison feeds contingent, unstable self-worth and steals contentment.
Where this sits: Self-worth; contingencies of self-worth.