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This is why a short call, a message to someone who knows you, or sitting in the same room as family is worth doing before you get as far as the breathing exercises. It also explains why going quiet during a bad patch makes everything harder to shift. Small contact counts, and it does not have to be a conversation about how you are.
'truly it is in the remembrance of God that hearts find peace' (Quran 13:28). Settling is described as something that happens in relationship, not something worked up alone.
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ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ وَتَطۡمَئِنُّ قُلُوبُهُم بِذِكۡرِ ٱللَّهِۗ أَلَا بِذِكۡرِ ٱللَّهِ تَطۡمَئِنُّ ٱلۡقُلُوبُ
those who have faith and whose hearts find peace in the remembrance of God- truly it is in the remembrance of God that hearts find peace
Qur’an 13:28read it in the library
Translation: M.A.S. Abdel Haleem, The Qur'an, Oxford University Press, 2004.
A meta-analysis pooling heart rate variability with brain imaging shows this heart measure tracks activity in the networks that handle emotion and threat, which is why regulation can fairly be called physiological rather than a matter of willpower. Those studies did not test contact with other people. Getting from network activity to your sister's voice on the phone is a reasonable move, but it is a move.
Thayer JF, Ahs F, Fredrikson M, Sollers JJ, Wager TD. (2012). A meta-analysis of heart rate variability and neuroimaging studies: implications for heart rate variability as a marker of stress and health.. Neuroscience and biobehavioral reviews doi
Strength of evidence: one line of research. A single study, or a theoretical account.
The circuits that let you connect with people also press the brake on fight, flight and shutdown.
Your heart speeds up slightly on every breath in and slows on every breath out. Sit quietly with a hand on your chest and you can feel it.
Most of the traffic on the nerve joining your gut, heart and lungs to your brain is heading upwards. When your stomach turns or your chest tightens, your body is reporting in.
Thinking about a feeling tends to slow it down. Feeling it in your body tends to speed it up. Between those two you have a throttle.