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In high alarm, hearing tips towards low rumbling sounds and away from the range the human voice sits in, so reassurance can genuinely fail to land. Say less. Keep your face soft, get down to their eye level, leave gaps. Once they have come down, the conversation you were trying to have becomes possible.
'remember your Lord inwardly, in all humility and awe, without raising your voice' (Quran 7:205). A lowered voice is named as the fitting one for a moment of awe, and it happens to be the one a frightened person can receive.
الأعراف
وَٱذۡكُر رَّبَّكَ فِي نَفۡسِكَ تَضَرُّعࣰ ا وَخِيفَةࣰ وَدُونَ ٱلۡجَهۡرِ مِنَ ٱلۡقَوۡلِ بِٱلۡغُدُوِّ وَٱلۡأٓصَالِ وَلَا تَكُن مِّنَ ٱلۡغَٰفِلِينَ
[Prophet], remember your Lord inwardly, in all humility and awe, without raising your voice, in the mornings and in the evenings- do not be one of the heedless
Qur’an 7:205read it in the library
Translation: M.A.S. Abdel Haleem, The Qur'an, Oxford University Press, 2004.
There is direct evidence that breath changes autonomic state: an experimental crossover study found deep slow breathing and vagal stimulation both raised vagal tone, improved gut motility and reduced pain sensitivity. That study was about the person doing the breathing, not about the effect of someone else's voice. Slowing your own breathing before you speak is the part with evidence behind it.
Frøkjaer JB, Bergmann S, Brock C, Madzak A, Farmer AD, Ellrich J, Drewes AM. (2016). Modulation of vagal tone enhances gastroduodenal motility and reduces somatic pain sensitivity.. Neurogastroenterology and motility doi
Strength of evidence: one line of research. A single study, or a theoretical account.
In alarm the ear itself tunes away from human speech, so how you sound matters more than what you say.
Your heart speeds up slightly on every breath in and slows on every breath out. Sit quietly with a hand on your chest and you can feel it.
Safety comes in through three doors: your body, the place you are in, and the people around you. If one is shut, try another.
If your usual trouble is a racing heart, a crowded head and never quite coming down, slow paced breathing with a feedback device is the one to try first.