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The full method comes with a sequence of points and a set number of rounds, and free manuals for it are everywhere. What it puts together is rhythmic tapping, saying the difficult thing out loud, and a line of self-acceptance, all of which have some standing on their own. Try it if you like the shape of it. Just hold your expectations loosely and notice whether it actually changes anything for you.
when hardship afflicts you, it is to Him alone you cry out for help (Quran 16:53). Saying the trouble out loud is older than any technique, and the technique is only borrowing it.
النحل
وَمَا بِكُم مِّن نِّعۡمَةࣲ فَمِنَ ٱللَّهِۖ ثُمَّ إِذَا مَسَّكُمُ ٱلضُّرُّ فَإِلَيۡهِ تَجۡـَٔرُونَ
Whatever good things you possess come from God, and when hardship afflicts you, it is to Him alone you cry out for help
Qur’an 16:53read it in the library
Translation: M.A.S. Abdel Haleem, The Qur'an, Oxford University Press, 2004.
A systematic review of 132 self-help strategies used without a professional concluded that the evidence base for most of them, including relaxation and distraction, is much thinner than their popularity would suggest. That caution applies squarely here. It is a reason to keep trying things that seem to help you personally, and a reason not to treat any of them as settled.
Wolpert M, Dalzell K, Ullman R, Garland L, Cortina M, Hayes D, Patalay P, Law D. (2019). Strategies not accompanied by a mental health professional to address anxiety and depression in children and young people: a scoping review of range and a systematic review of effectiveness.. The lancet. Psychiatry doi
Strength of evidence: long taught, never tested. Widely used and long taught. No trial has established that it works.
Several things that separately help are bundled into one short routine, whatever the tapping itself contributes.
The same check-in can take two minutes or fifteen. Match the length to the day you are actually having, not to the version you were taught.
If your child is learning to settle, learn it alongside them rather than supervising. Parents who practise report less stress of their own and less flying off the handle.
Say it plainly whenever you teach anything: the way I am showing you this is not the way it has to be done. Change it until it works for you.