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Much of what makes a bad feeling unbearable is the second layer: the objecting, the wishing it gone, the fear that it means something about you. Drop that layer and the first one usually turns out smaller than it looked. This is not approval and it is not giving up. It is stopping a fight you were never going to win.
I plead my grief and sorrow before God (Quran 12:86). Jacob does not talk himself out of the grief, he carries it somewhere it can be held.
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قَالَ إِنَّمَآ أَشۡكُواْ بَثِّي وَحُزۡنِيٓ إِلَى ٱللَّهِ وَأَعۡلَمُ مِنَ ٱللَّهِ مَا لَا تَعۡلَمُونَ
He said, ‘I plead my grief and sorrow before God. I have knowledge from God that you do not have
Qur’an 12:86read it in the library
Translation: M.A.S. Abdel Haleem, The Qur'an, Oxford University Press, 2004.
In a study of people living with chronic pain, distinct profiles of body awareness emerged, and noticing sensations only helped adjustment when it came together with trusting them and not catastrophising about them. Noticing on its own was not enough. That fits the point here: the stance you take toward what you notice is what does the work.
Oliveira I, Vaz Garrido M, Carvalho H, Carvalho H, Figueira Bernardes S. (2024). Sensing the body matters: profiles of interoceptive sensibility in chronic pain adjustment.. Pain doi
Strength of evidence: one line of research. A single study, or a theoretical account.
Struggling against a feeling adds to it, so letting the struggle go takes the addition away.
If what surfaces when you stop resisting feels overwhelming or frightening, do this with someone alongside you rather than by yourself.
The reading happens without you, but you can catch up to it. Naming what your body has already concluded, out loud or in your head, is most of the work.
When what is happening inside gets too loud, turn outward. Name what you can see, listen for the furthest sound, press your feet into the floor.
The body answers in sensations, in pictures, in a mood that turns up without explanation. If no words come when you check in, nothing has gone wrong.