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Fighting an unchangeable thing adds a second layer of suffering on top of the first. Acceptance here does not mean approval or giving up on care. It means putting down the part of the struggle that was never going to work, so that what strength you have goes somewhere useful. Knowing which situations call for pushing and which call for softening is most of the skill.
Musa's mother is told to put him in the river and 'do not be afraid, and do not grieve' (Quran 28:7). She is asked to let go of the very thing she cannot control, and the letting go is the act of trust.
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وَأَوۡحَيۡنَآ إِلَىٰٓ أُمِّ مُوسَىٰٓ أَنۡ أَرۡضِعِيهِۖ فَإِذَا خِفۡتِ عَلَيۡهِ فَأَلۡقِيهِ فِي ٱلۡيَمِّ وَلَا تَخَافِي وَلَا تَحۡزَنِيٓۖ إِنَّا رَآدُّوهُ إِلَيۡكِ وَجَاعِلُوهُ مِنَ ٱلۡمُرۡسَلِينَ
We inspired Moses’ mother, saying, ‘Suckle him, and then, when you fear for his safety, put him in the river: do not be afraid, and do not grieve, for We shall return him to you and make him a messenger.’
Qur’an 28:7read it in the library
Translation: M.A.S. Abdel Haleem, The Qur'an, Oxford University Press, 2004.
A meta analysis of randomised trials found massage reduced cancer pain, with the authors noting that blinding is impossible in such trials and quality was uneven. It is worth reading in this context: comfort offered in situations where the underlying illness is not going anywhere. Relief and cure are separate things, and the first is still worth having.
Lee SH, Kim JY, Yeo S, Kim SH, Lim S. (2015). Meta-Analysis of Massage Therapy on Cancer Pain.. Integrative cancer therapies doi
Strength of evidence: one line of research. A single study, or a theoretical account.
Struggle against what cannot move costs energy and changes nothing, so letting it go returns the energy.
Finish by letting your eyes travel slowly from one side to the other a few times, open or closed, then bring them back to the middle and notice how you are.
Picture somewhere peaceful and then walk in it. Feel the ground under each foot, your legs moving, and count the steps up to twenty.
Words for feelings tend to arrive after the body has been noticed, not before. Find the sensation first, then see what it wants to be called.