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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Do not only correct the thought, correct the sentence. Rather than do not shout at me, try can you take those off, I want to talk to you.
Telling yourself to stay calm gives you nothing to do, and the ready-made sharp line is still the only thing in your mouth. A plain request gives all…
If you are helping someone set up a practice like this, ask them for ideas before you offer yours. Keep a few in your back pocket for when they run dry.
What people invent for themselves fits their actual life, and they are far more likely to do it. Have suggestions ready anyway, because a brainstorm…
Offer a practice as a question rather than an instruction. What do you think it would be like to wake yourself up once a day? That is a very different sentence from you should.
People argue with instructions, particularly people who were sent rather than came. A question leaves them to make the case, and the case they make…
You can tell someone they have hurt you without your voice showing it. The message and the heat come apart, and it is usually the heat that stops the message being heard.
Worth saying, because plenty of people believe the only options are swallowing it or letting it out. There is a third, which is saying the whole hard…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
Open with the difficulty instead of the accusation. "This is hard for me to say" and "I am worried you will not like this" buy you a hearing that "you always" never will.
Two things happen at once when you start this way. The other person stops preparing a defence, because nothing has been thrown at them yet. And you…