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Most outbursts are a last try at getting something across. Underneath the noise there is usually a need that has gone unmet for a long time.
It rarely arrives as a message, though. It arrives as volume, and the other person hears the volume and misses the content entirely. Treating it as a…
Holding anger in does not hide it. It comes out in the face, the shoulders and the shortness of your answers, and the person opposite reads all of it.
This is why gritted politeness so often makes things worse rather than better. They can feel something and now they cannot ask about it. Saying the…
You can take somebody's fire seriously without approving of what they did with it. Both halves have to be there.
Drop the first half and you get a lecture nobody listens to. Drop the second and you end up admiring something that hurt people. Said properly it…
Defence starts at a boundary. When anger flares, something has been read as crossing a line, so the question worth asking is which line.
The answer is often smaller and clearer than the reaction: being spoken over, being made to look stupid in front of someone, having your time taken…
Being late on purpose, the joke with an edge, the job done just badly enough: that is anger at full strength, only sent by a quieter route.
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People who do this often say honestly that they never get angry, and they believe it, because what they are picturing is shouting. The feeling is all…