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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
A wave across the road, a joke with the man in the shop, asking someone how they are and meaning it. These unplanned seconds count for more than they look like they should.
They are also the easiest place to start when arranging a proper meet up feels like too much. Almost nothing is at stake in a greeting, so a fear of…
Time with people is not the nice extra you get to once the real work is done. Put it alongside sleep, medication and exercise rather than underneath them.
It helps to treat it like any other part of a plan, with something specific in the week rather than a general intention to be more social. One…
Belonging to the group does nothing. Going does. Having a friend does nothing either, unless you see them.
So count the actual events. How many times this week did you sit with someone, not message them. A number you can check beats a resolution to be more…
When someone has gone flat, the question is not what they ought to be doing. It is what still has any life in it for them, however small or unimpressive, and then how to get more of that.
Activities handed out from the outside do not lift much. Someone who brightens talking about their car, or a cousin, or a game has just given you the…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
ADHD rarely turns up on its own. If anxiety or low mood is in the room as well, it needs treating in its own right, and that includes when it is the other partner who is struggling.
This is the part that gets missed in couples. One person becomes the identified patient and everybody works on them, while the other one's untreated…