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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Being far apart is not the same as being out of touch. What usually stops contact is the question of who starts it, not the miles.
Distance turns into disconnection when both people wait for the other one. It helps to fix a when rather than promising to speak soon. The same…
Step in while a child is only starting to wind up, and offer something calming rather than a correction. Slow breathing, counting, a soft toy, a quiet corner for a few minutes.
Three to ten minutes in a set place is plenty. It works best when the offer is warm and matter of fact, one sentence, no lecture about what they did.…
The whole value of a calming corner is that the child can take themselves there. An adult may suggest it, but if it is only ever ordered, what gets learned is obedience rather than self-regulation.
Make it clearly available rather than assigned. They go, they take their few minutes, they come back with a short hello and a nod at whatever they…
Instead of sending a child out to sit and stew, send them to a side table for three very easy worksheets, then straight back to whatever everyone else is doing.
It takes them out of whatever was rewarding about the behaviour without leaving them with nothing to do and an audience to play to. Keep the work…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
Time with people is not the nice extra you get to once the real work is done. Put it alongside sleep, medication and exercise rather than underneath them.
It helps to treat it like any other part of a plan, with something specific in the week rather than a general intention to be more social. One…