Practices

Being told not to worry has never once stopped anybody worrying, including you. If a friend said it to you tomorrow you would carry straight on.

This is worth saying to a parent who feels they are failing at comforting their child. They are not bad at it. The words simply do not do that job…

Say the coping sentence aloud instead of thinking it. Some people generate very little of that inner commentary on their own, and hearing it in the room does the job the inner voice was supposed to do.

Out loud, in your own words, something like: my brain is doing the thing again, this is chemistry, it is here because I care. Say it in the car, in…

You will not talk a driven person out of worrying, so give the worry a better job. If someone frets about their revision, have them fret about whether they are also taking breaks and sleeping, since those are part of the revision.

This works because it uses the drive rather than fighting it. The same conscientiousness that produces the twelfth hour at the desk will produce a…

A great many people worry silently and look perfectly calm doing it. Families are often astonished to find out how much has been going on.

If someone in your house goes quiet, spends longer alone, or seems flat rather than agitated, that can be worry rather than indifference. You will…