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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Instead of shutting your eyes, let your gaze go soft and wide: the sky, the far wall, the space above someone's shoulder. Keep them open and let the focus loosen.
Closing your eyes in front of someone reads as walking out of the conversation, and it often makes things worse. A soft open gaze breaks the lock…
Those same four dots could have been joined into a cross. You never saw the cross, because the square had already settled.
The second step matters more than the first. Not only did you build the picture, you built one of several that fitted the same dots. So when a tone…
The same cup is a drinking cup at home and contraband in a prison, because the role you are standing in has already decided what you are looking at.
You have roles too, and they are quieter than a uniform: the wronged partner, the one who never gets thanked, the employee nobody respects. Standing…
Think about the last person who shouted at you. Were they angry with you, or were they afraid? The honest answer is usually both, and both is allowed.
This is not about excusing anyone. Fear and anger arrive together so often that reading only the anger leaves half of it out. Seeing the frightened…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
You cannot check whether your own view is fair while standing entirely inside it. Being certain you are right is a feeling, and feelings are not evidence.
In a row, the sense of being obviously in the right is the thing that gives you permission to hit back. Try holding your version as your version:…