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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Before you start a practice that needs a pen and paper, have the pen and paper. It sounds too small to matter and it is the difference between doing the exercise and daydreaming about it.
The physical object is what turns something happening inside you into something you can count. If you are doing this with someone over a screen, ask…
The river is a way of talking, not a scene to imagine. You are not trying to see water, you are looking inward and noticing what turns up.
This is the most common way the practice goes wrong. People build a lovely picture of a stream, get bored of it, and decide the exercise does nothing…
Run it for about ninety seconds, stop, and see how that was. Short and repeated beats one long sit, especially if sitting still is not your strong point.
A minute and a half is short enough that a restless or reluctant person will agree to it, and long enough for something to happen worth talking…
If steady sounds like soft to you, notice who actually holds a room. It is not the one who goes off first.
Words matter here more than they should. Call it wise and some people hear weak, and reject the skill along with the label. Whatever you call it, the…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
The braking part of the brain is not finished until the mid to late twenties. A teenager who cannot hold their tongue is not being defiant, they are working with equipment still under construction.
Expecting adult self-control from a fifteen year old sets everyone up to fail, and then to argue about the failing. What helps more is lowering the…