Practices

If anger is fear in armour, then what works on fear is what works on anger: go towards the thing in small doses, stay a little longer each time, and let your body collect evidence.

That is a different project from clamping down, and it moves in a different direction. The situations you have quietly organised your life around…

Changing how you react is two jobs, not one: loosening the old response and building the new one. Most people only do the second and then wonder why the old one keeps winning.

The new response is usually fine in calm conditions and then vanishes the moment your pulse is up, because the old one is still there, faster and far…

This kind of change is slow, and saying so at the start is a kindness. A goal you can actually reach beats a promise that turns the first bad week into proof of failure.

If you are helping someone, name the timescale honestly and say out loud that lapses come with it. If it is your own work, write down what a…

Assessing a child's thinking used to mean a referral, a waiting list and a report some months later. Brief cognitive tools an ordinary clinician can run have changed that, and the gap between noticing something and having a plan can now be a session rather than a season.

Learn one of them properly instead of dabbling in three. Know what it measures, what it does not, and how to talk about a score without turning it…