Practices

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The version of you making sensible plans this afternoon is not the version standing in the kitchen at eleven at night. Plan for the other one.

That means leaving things in place instead of relying on your future good sense: the phone charging in the hall, an agreement that either of you can…

Five minutesChoosing your responseMindfulnessQur’an 2:153One line of research

If your whole plan is to keep your mouth shut next time, ask yourself how. Most of us go blank at that question, and the blank is worth more attention than another promise to try harder.

Willpower has been available to you every time this went wrong, so more of it is not the missing piece. What helps is something you can say out loud…

Five minutesChoosing your responseMindfulnessQur’an 2:153One line of research

If open awareness sounds like too much, put it plainly: look at the background instead of the thing in front of it. That is the entire instruction.

People who bounce off contemplative language will happily follow a physical direction about where to point their eyes. Say background, say the space…

Five minutesCool the body firstMindfulnessQur’an 3:191One line of research

Open gazing and long unfocused staring do not suit everyone. If things start to feel unreal or far away, stop and look at something you can name.

This caution is usually left out, and it should not be. Practices that are open, unguided and without an anchor are the ones most often followed by…

Five minutesCool the body firstMindfulnessQur’an 16:80One line of research

Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.

Stoics, Cynics, Buddhist teachers and your own grandmother were all working on the same problem: how to stay steady when life leans on you. You are allowed to use the version that is already yours.

You do not have to import somebody else's whole worldview to get a practice of steadiness. If sitting with a breath count feels foreign, a…

Five minutesEquanimity and perspectiveMindfulnessQur’an 3:191One line of research

Have three or four openers ready before you need them. For what it is worth. Can I run something by you. You might not like this, so give me the benefit of the doubt.

When you are stirred up you will not compose diplomatic language on the spot, so the phrases have to be picked in advance and worn in. Say them aloud…

Five minutesEquanimity and perspectiveMindfulnessQur’an 3:173One line of research

Try going into the next few minutes without deciding in advance what will happen in them. Curiosity in place of prediction.

A mind used to danger plans constantly, because planning once kept you safe. Sitting somewhere ordinary and letting the next moment be unknown is…

Five minutesFeeling from the insideMindfulnessQur’an 16:78One line of research

The benefit of a settling practice is cumulative. A fortnight of it now and then does little; the people who get most out of it are the ones who kept going for years.

This cuts both ways, and both are worth knowing. Two weeks of daily practice with no obvious result is not proof that it will not work for you. And…

Five minutesGrounding and settlingMindfulnessQur’an 33:41Long taught, never tested

Your mind wandering off during meditation is not you failing at it. Noticing that it went, and coming back, is the whole exercise.

People with restless attention often try meditation, find their head full of noise, decide they are uniquely bad at it and never go back. Nobody…

Five minutesGrounding and settlingMindfulnessQur’an 50:16Long taught, never tested

Think of your thoughts as traffic on a road. Practice thins the traffic. It does not close the road, and nobody has ever managed to close it.

This is a more useful target than clearing your mind, because you can tell whether it is happening. Some days it is bumper to bumper and the practice…

Five minutesGrounding and settlingMindfulnessQur’an 13:28Long taught, never tested

Five minutes chosen for the state you are actually in beats twenty minutes of open sitting. Pick the one labelled stressed, or cannot sleep, or about to walk into work.

Two things end a practice early: it was longer than the attention you had that day, and you had to decide what to do before you could start. Short…

Five minutesGrounding and settlingMindfulnessQur’an 33:41Long taught, never tested

When you offer a practice to someone, use their words for it rather than yours. Keep the fuller version ready for the day they ask where it comes from.

A plain, unmystical version suits most people and costs them nothing to accept. Anyone who gets curious can have all of it, and they will take more…

Five minutesMaking it stickMindfulnessQur’an 5:48One line of research

Learn a new practice in that order: the picture of what it is, then the plain steps, then actually doing it. Knowing what is coming settles most of the resistance before it starts.

Say to yourself, or to the person you are teaching, that in a minute the talking stops and the doing begins. It sounds trivial and it removes the low…

Five minutesThe moment before you snapMindfulnessQur’an 16:98One line of research

Look inside. The moment you catch something going past, put a small dot on the paper and go back to looking. That is the whole exercise, over and over.

The dot is doing something specific: it turns a private, slippery moment of noticing into an act you can see and count. No words, no keeping score,…

Five minutesThe moment before you snapMindfulnessQur’an 7:200One line of research

Being unbothered by your own thoughts and being unbothered by another person are two separate skills. Getting good at the first does not hand you the second.

You can sit quietly and watch your own mind with real steadiness, then lose the lot the moment somebody smirks at you. That is not backsliding. It is…

Five minutesThe moment before you snapMindfulnessQur’an 41:35One line of research