Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Before someone has said a word, you have often already decided what they are: only here because they were made to come, not really interested, wasting your time. That decision changes how the meeting goes.

The person sent by a court, or pushed into the room by a partner or a manager, walks in already read. Try starting the hour with nothing written: no…

A minuteEquanimity and perspectiveMindfulnessQur’an 9:129One line of research

Before inviting anyone to turn attention to their body, ask first. How do you feel about trying this now, and would you like to?

The asking is part of the practice, not the preamble to it. Someone whose body was once not theirs to control needs the choice handed back in small…

A minuteFeeling from the insideMindfulnessQur’an 6:125One line of research

A long body practice is a teaching version. In real life, take one small piece: just the feet, just the hands, just a minute of noticing.

Long stretches of inward attention can tip into flooding or into drifting off, and neither leaves you better than you started. A minute done often…

A minuteFeeling from the insideMindfulnessQur’an 26:13One line of research

If the word mindfulness makes you wince, leave the word out. Paying attention to your breath, or to the sounds in the room, is the whole of it.

A lot of people turn the practice down before trying it, because the label sounds like it belongs to somebody else's religion or somebody else's sort…

A minuteMaking it stickMindfulnessQur’an 29:69One line of research

Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.

One or two minutes every day will do more for you than forty minutes once a week. The long sit sounds serious and is mostly a good way to end up dreading it.

Set the price so low that skipping it would be odd: a minute, at a moment you already have. The aim is that it happens again tomorrow, not that it…

A minuteMaking it stickMindfulnessQur’an 33:41One line of research

Before you start a practice that needs a pen and paper, have the pen and paper. It sounds too small to matter and it is the difference between doing the exercise and daydreaming about it.

The physical object is what turns something happening inside you into something you can count. If you are doing this with someone over a screen, ask…

A minuteThe moment before you snapMindfulnessQur’an 20:130One line of research

What you are doing when you sit on the bank has a name. Researchers call it metacognitive distancing, and it has been studied for decades.

Knowing the name matters more than it should. Plenty of people, and especially people who were sent to get help rather than choosing it, quietly file…

A minuteThe moment before you snapMindfulnessQur’an 8:29One line of research

The river is a way of talking, not a scene to imagine. You are not trying to see water, you are looking inward and noticing what turns up.

This is the most common way the practice goes wrong. People build a lovely picture of a stream, get bored of it, and decide the exercise does nothing…

A minuteThe moment before you snapMindfulnessQur’an 7:201One line of research

If a river on a summer afternoon does nothing for you, use something plainer. Counting the traffic from a porch, or standing outside a shop counting how many people walk past, does the same job.

Metaphors are personal and there is no prize for liking the poetic one. Some people take to it straight away when it is a road and a stopwatch…

A minuteThe moment before you snapMindfulnessQur’an 25:63One line of research

Run it for about ninety seconds, stop, and see how that was. Short and repeated beats one long sit, especially if sitting still is not your strong point.

A minute and a half is short enough that a restless or reluctant person will agree to it, and long enough for something to happen worth talking…

A minuteThe moment before you snapMindfulnessQur’an 21:37One line of research

If the language of mindfulness puts you off, drop the language. Call it noticing what your mind is doing, and use it anyway.

Some people hear anything that sounds spiritual and close the door, and then a useful skill goes unused over a word. There is nothing here you have…

A minuteThe moment before you snapMindfulnessQur’an 17:53One line of research

If steady sounds like soft to you, notice who actually holds a room. It is not the one who goes off first.

Words matter here more than they should. Call it wise and some people hear weak, and reject the skill along with the label. Whatever you call it, the…

A minuteThe moment before you snapMindfulnessQur’an 25:63One line of research