Practices

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Solve the problem without leaving the situation. Change where you sit in the canteen, who you sit with, what you bring with you, but stay in the canteen.

Otherwise a good problem solving session quietly becomes a plan for avoiding more skilfully. The test is simple. Does this option keep me in the…

Five minutesFacing it a step at a timeCBTQur’an 94:5One line of research

When something frightens you the mind offers one option: do not go. Force out two or three more before judging any of them, daft ones included. Choosing needs something to choose between.

There is an order that works. Say what the problem actually is, in one sentence. List some options without weighing them yet. Then go through what is…

Twenty minutesFacing it a step at a timeCBTQur’an 12:87One line of research

Panic rarely comes out of nowhere. It usually lands on a body already short of sleep, running on coffee and eating at odd hours, so whatever tipped it over did not have far to push.

This is not a telling off about your habits. It is that the same argument or deadline arrives very differently at a rested body than at a wrecked…

LongerFacing it a step at a timeCBTQur’an 4:28One line of research

Stay with a step until it stops being interesting. Not until you have survived it once, but until it is ordinary, and then move up.

Moving on too early turns the ladder into a run of narrow escapes, and each escape teaches that you got out just in time. The marker worth waiting…

LongerFacing it a step at a timeCBTQur’an 94:7One line of research

Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.

Grounding and settling

Answering bids

Treatment and medication

Practising under provocation

What ADHD actually is

Screens and attention

Repair after rupture

Cool the body first

What you are actually defending

Structure and routine

Being seen and judged

Breathing

Making it stick

Rebuilding trust

Shared spiritual life

Treatment and medication

What worry does

Affection and touch

Fondness and admiration

Emotions as signals

Remembering to do it

Rituals of connection

Listening and understanding

Breaking the worry loop

Feeling from the inside

Shame and stigma

Righteous anger and perfectionism

When you use something to cope

Anger, alcohol and the body

Facing it a step at a time

Question the thought

Meaning after harm

Posture and how you carry yourself

Safety and grounding

When anger turns to harm

Working with anger

Notice the pattern and flex

Your worth is not conditional

Obsessions and compulsions

Care for yourself in loss

Work with your brain

Validate yourself and others

Help someone grieving

Get it out of your head

Find meaning

Your window of tolerance

When you go numb

Living with uncertainty

Reading, numbers and learning differences

Panic and the body

Shame

Stand on one leg for a few breaths. Your body has to work to keep you upright, and that work is loud enough to feel on a day when nothing else registers.

Balance pulls in the joints, the inner ear and the muscles all at once, so it gives a far stronger signal than sitting still and hoping to notice…

A minuteFeeling from the insideBody basedQur’an 31:20One line of research

There is more than one way to feel your body. The outward senses, the inward signals like hunger and tension, and the sense of where your limbs are in space are separate channels, and on a hard day one of them will be easier than the others.

If tuning into your chest feels like too much, that is worth knowing rather than pushing through. You can go instead to what your feet are pressing…

Five minutesFeeling from the insideBody basedQur’an 32:9One line of research

If you are going to bring attention to your body, start with where your body is rather than what it feels. Feet on the floor, back against the chair, the weight of your hands in your lap.

Attention to the inside, the chest, the stomach, the throat, sits close to the emotional wiring and can open more than you meant to open. Position in…

Five minutesFeeling from the insideBody basedQur’an 51:21One line of research

Your nervous system decides whether a room is safe before you have had a single thought about it. Tone of voice, a face, the way someone walks in: it reads all of that and answers underneath your awareness.

This is why you can leave a perfectly pleasant meeting wrung out, or take against someone who has done nothing you could point to. The reading is…

Five minutesFeeling from the insideBody basedQur’an 50:16One line of research

The reading happens without you, but you can catch up to it. Naming what your body has already concluded, out loud or in your head, is most of the work.

Something like: my shoulders came up when he walked in. That is all it needs to be. You are not deciding yet whether it was fair, you are bringing a…

Five minutesFeeling from the insideBody basedQur’an 91:8One line of research

An alarm system can be wrong in two directions. It can scream in a safe room, and it can stay silent somewhere it should not.

Most talk about trauma assumes the first: too much alarm, too often. But some people come out of hard years with the volume turned right down,…

Five minutesFeeling from the insideBody basedQur’an 17:36One line of research

One question does a lot of work: is what my body is doing right now a fair match for what is actually in front of me? Ask it plainly, and let the answer be either yes or no.

The point is not to talk yourself out of the feeling. The signal is information and it deserves a hearing. But you can hold it up against the room…

Five minutesFeeling from the insideBody basedQur’an 12:53One line of research

You do not have to close your eyes. If keeping them open, soft and lowered, is what lets you stay in the room, that is the better version for you.

Closing your eyes takes away your ability to check the room, and for anyone whose body is used to watching, that costs more than it gives. Make it an…

Five minutesFeeling from the insideMindfulnessQur’an 22:46One line of research

The body answers in sensations, in pictures, in a mood that turns up without explanation. If no words come when you check in, nothing has gone wrong.

People often decide they are bad at this because they went looking for a sentence and found a tight jaw instead. The tight jaw is the answer. Take…

Five minutesFeeling from the insideMindfulnessQur’an 12:84One line of research

If a few quiet minutes with your body turn up an ache or a tightness you had not noticed before, the practice has not made things worse. It has shown you something that was already there.

This catches a lot of people out. They sit down hoping to feel calmer, meet a knot in the stomach instead, and decide the whole thing is not for…

Five minutesFeeling from the insideMindfulnessQur’an 3:29One line of research

If you are moving attention through the body, start at the feet and work up. Leave the throat, the chest and the face until last.

The far edges of the body carry less charge, so they are a gentle place to find your bearings. Include the back, which people tend to skip: attention…

Twenty minutesFeeling from the insideMindfulnessQur’an 40:19One line of research

There is a difference between watching your hand and being in your hand. See whether you can move from looking at a part of your body to living inside it.

Observing keeps a small distance, which is useful early on and can quietly become the whole practice. Inhabiting is the further step: filling the…

Twenty minutesFeeling from the insideMindfulnessQur’an 91:7One line of research

When you genuinely cannot know what someone thought of you, the harsh guess is no more accurate than the kind one. Since you are inventing either way, invent the version that lets you carry on with your day.

This is not positive thinking. It is noticing the moment you moved from evidence to invention, because at that point you get a say. A short reply…

A minuteFeelings and focusCBTQur’an 41:34One line of research

Picture spilling coffee down your shirt on the way in. One version: the day is ruined and everyone will see. Another: this is going to be a good story by eleven. Same coffee, two different days.

The part that decides is the sentence you say about the event, and it usually arrives so fast that it feels like part of the event itself. Slowing…

A minuteFeelings and focusCBTQur’an 17:83One line of research

A small child does not have a feeling, they are the feeling, entirely, until it passes. Growing up is largely a gap opening between feeling something and doing something about it.

If that gap is narrower for you than for other people your age, it is a lag on a road everyone is on rather than a defect. The framing is worth…

A minuteFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 8:11One line of research

Turning the volume down on a feeling in front of the wrong audience is not being fake. Being annoyed with your manager and raising it mildly is a skill, and it keeps you employed.

There is a version of honesty that costs people jobs and friendships. What you feel and how much of it you show are two separate decisions, and the…

A minuteFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 3:134One line of research