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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
The version of you making sensible plans this afternoon is not the version standing in the kitchen at eleven at night. Plan for the other one.
That means leaving things in place instead of relying on your future good sense: the phone charging in the hall, an agreement that either of you can…
If your whole plan is to keep your mouth shut next time, ask yourself how. Most of us go blank at that question, and the blank is worth more attention than another promise to try harder.
Willpower has been available to you every time this went wrong, so more of it is not the missing piece. What helps is something you can say out loud…
If you are on autopilot, the part of you that would notice is asleep as well. So do not count on waking yourself in the moment, arrange for something outside you to do the waking.
That might be a practice kept at fixed times, a phrase agreed with someone at home, a note left where you will genuinely see it, or a plain if this…
Hardly any of us were taught how to acquire a habit. You can know which one you want, agree it is a good idea, and still have no procedure, which is a different problem from not caring.
A procedure is boring and specific: one behaviour, one cue that sets it off, one time of day, and some way of noticing whether it happened. If you…
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