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While the feeling is at full volume, no argument gets through, including a good one of your own. Settle the body first and talk afterwards.
Reasoning with someone at their peak, or with yourself, nearly always adds heat rather than sense. The order that works is calm, then conversation:…
Slow your out breath. The threat system reads the state of your blood as well as the state of the room, so changing how you breathe changes something it is genuinely listening to.
Make the out breath longer than the in breath, roughly six breaths a minute, for two or three minutes. It is dull, and dull is the point, because you…
Anger often grows after the moment that started it, with nothing new added. The system amplifies its own signal, insisting that this is big, pay attention, react.
That is how you can leave a conversation at a five and reach an eight by the time you get to the car. Knowing it climbs on its own lets you plan for…
The alarm listens to your body as well as to the world, so once you are stirred up the stirring becomes its own evidence. Replaying the scene keeps feeding it.
This is why anger stays up half the night long after the other person has gone to bed. The rehearsal feels like processing, but mostly it keeps the…
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