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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Without that gap the choice is made before it is a choice: one marshmallow now instead of two in ten minutes. It shows up in money, in work, in what gets said to people.
Worth seeing as one pattern rather than as a list of separate failings, which is both kinder and more useful. The same fix applies everywhere it…
The conversation only counts if the decisions end up in the calendar. 'You take Tuesday, I'll take Thursday' has to be written down or it did not really happen.
Both of you were relying on the same tired memory that caused the trouble in the first place. So do the writing during the conversation rather than…
People stop telling the truth to anyone who argues with it. Being easy to be honest with is a skill, and it has to be visible from the outside.
Notice what you do in the first three seconds after hearing something you did not want to hear. The explaining, the yes but, the small correction of…
When the panic finally shows up, take it as news about the past rather than a call to action. It means the good options went a while ago.
You can use the sentence on yourself in the moment: by the time I feel it, it is already too late. Not as a beating, just as information. Two things…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
Hang something small and near on the task. No coffee until the expense form is in. Not a treat later in the month, something you actually want in the next ten minutes.
It works better when the reward is genuinely small, genuinely close, and you hold the line on it. Big distant rewards behave exactly like the…