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After harm
This area is for understanding what is happening in you after something harmful, and for settling. It is not a treatment programme.
Nothing here asks you to go back into a traumatic memory. Processing a trauma is work to do with a therapist who can hold it with you, not alone with a website. If you start to feel far away, unreal, or flooded while reading, stop and come back another time.
What works for this
Grounding, and staying inside your window
This area does one thing and does not do the others. It helps you get steady and get to somebody who can help. Nothing here asks you to go back over what happened, because processing is work for a trained person in a room with you.
One move, today
Five things you can see, four you can feel, three you can hear, two you can smell, one slow breath all the way out. Said out loud if you can.
What matches
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Harm done to you is not a verdict on your worth. Trade the harsh inner voice for a kinder, truer one.
When trauma tells you that you are utterly alone and beyond help, treat that as the wound talking, not the truth. Do not despair.
A common voice in trauma says you are cast out, unreachable, beyond care. It feels total, but it is a symptom, not a fact, and acting against it,…