Lesson 4 of 6 · Small and repeated beats big and rare
The one sentence
One ordinary contact, chosen by you, on a moment that already exists. Not a list, not a ladder, and no target number of people. You may leave whenever you like, and leaving does not undo it. If the thing you are thinking of is something you dread rather than something you have simply let slide, do not push at it here. That is lesson six and it belongs with someone trained.
The move
One small repeated thing
10 minutes or less
- Pick one thing that happens on a schedule you do not control. A class, a jamaah, a shop, a walk.
- Go to the same one at the same time for four weeks.
- Say one sentence to the same person each time. It does not have to be interesting.
- Do not try to make a friend. Repetition does that on its own and effort makes it worse.
If it does not work
If four weeks passes and nothing has grown, that is not a verdict on you. Familiarity usually takes longer than a month, and the next month is cheaper than the first.
Write the one sentence
A specific plan works better than a good intention. Fill both halves in your own words.
Pick a day and a time and you will get a calendar file to open. Nothing is sent anywhere.
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