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That changes what helps. Another plan, another chart, another talk about wasted potential all land on the wrong problem. What shifts things is a first task small enough that success is close to certain, then another, until the expectation of failing has something to argue with. For a parent or a partner it also means keeping encouragement believable rather than big.
Whenever you forget, remember your Lord and say, May my Lord guide me closer to what is right (Quran 18:24). The way back after a lapse is a turn, not a punishment.
الكهف
إِلَّآ أَن يَشَآءَ ٱللَّهُۚ وَٱذۡكُر رَّبَّكَ إِذَا نَسِيتَ وَقُلۡ عَسَىٰٓ أَن يَهۡدِيَنِ رَبِّي لِأَقۡرَبَ مِنۡ هَٰذَا رَشَدࣰ ا
without adding, ‘God willing,’ and, whenever you forget, remember your Lord and say, ‘May my Lord guide me closer to what is right.’
Qur’an 18:24read it in the library
Translation: M.A.S. Abdel Haleem, The Qur'an, Oxford University Press, 2004.
A meta-analysis drawing on 691 correlations found that low belief in your own ability to do a task, along with how unpleasant the task is and how far off the deadline sits, are among the strongest predictors of putting it off. Laziness and poor values were not. It is correlational, so it shows what travels together rather than proving what causes what.
Steel P. (2007). The nature of procrastination: a meta-analytic and theoretical review of quintessential self-regulatory failure.. Psychological bulletin doi
Strength of evidence: one line of research. A single study, or a theoretical account.
People try when they believe trying might work.
If the hopelessness has settled in and covers most of life rather than one task, that is worth taking to a doctor or therapist rather than handling with a list.
Shrink the first step until it takes two minutes, and do only that.
Not all delaying is the same thing. Some of it is wanting it perfect, some of it is expecting to fail the way you did last time, and some of it is being genuinely busy with everything except the one job.
A decision that is barely tipped is still a decision. If one side is ahead by a hair, that is your answer, and you are allowed to take it.