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It shows up as reacting to each moment rather than moving through a day with a shape. Adults read that as not caring, and the child usually cannot explain otherwise, because you cannot report on something you do not perceive. Naming it kindly, in front of the child, changes the atmosphere around every other thing you try.
Man was created hasty (Quran 21:37). Living in the moment is described as part of how people are made, and children are the plainest example of it.
الأنبياء
خُلِقَ ٱلۡإِنسَٰنُ مِنۡ عَجَلࣲۚ سَأُوْرِيكُمۡ ءَايَٰتِي فَلَا تَسۡتَعۡجِلُونِ
Man was created hasty: I will show you My signs soon, so do not ask Me to hasten them
Qur’an 21:37read it in the library
Translation: M.A.S. Abdel Haleem, The Qur'an, Oxford University Press, 2004.
A review of how episodic foresight develops in young children distinguishes it from planning, from waiting for a reward and from remembering to do things later, and points out that tasks meant to measure it often confuse these. So the capacity to hold a future moment in mind grows over time and is genuinely hard to measure. That is a reason to be careful before reading a child's behaviour as a choice.
Hudson JA, Mayhew EM, Prabhakar J. (2011). The development of episodic foresight: emerging concepts and methods.. Advances in child development and behavior doi
Strength of evidence: one line of research. A single study, or a theoretical account.
If the rest of the day is not present to a child in the first place, no amount of reminding them of it will make them feel it.
For a lot of people with ADHD there are only two times: now, and not now. A deadline on Thursday and one six months out sit in the same box until the day they suddenly become today.
A hundred pounds now, or the same hundred pounds guaranteed at the end of the year. Same money, same certainty. One of them pulls at you and the other does not.
The more you have to look up before you can begin, the further the real time drifts from your guess. Every search is also a door left open, and some of them lead somewhere else entirely.