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It is a genuinely encouraging thought on a bad day. Whatever in you reads a room and picks up a change of tone is the equipment you will use to catch the surge early. People who feel things sharply often get rather good at this, once they stop treating the sharpness as the enemy.
man prays for harm, just as he prays for good (Quran 17:11). One faculty is described running in both directions, and the direction is where the work is.
الإسراء
وَيَدۡعُ ٱلۡإِنسَٰنُ بِٱلشَّرِّ دُعَآءَهُۥ بِٱلۡخَيۡرِۖ وَكَانَ ٱلۡإِنسَٰنُ عَجُولࣰ ا
Yet man prays for harm, just as he prays for good: man is ever hasty
Qur’an 17:11read it in the library
Translation: M.A.S. Abdel Haleem, The Qur'an, Oxford University Press, 2004.
Across 51 samples and more than 21,000 people, reinterpreting situations correlated modestly with better mental health while habitually hiding feelings correlated with worse. Working with what you notice does better than blunting it. The effects were small and everything was measured at one point in time, so read it as a direction rather than a dose.
Hu T, Zhang D, Wang J, Mistry R, Ran G, Wang X. (2014). Relation between emotion regulation and mental health: a meta-analysis review.. Psychological reports doi
Strength of evidence: one line of research. A single study, or a theoretical account.
Noticing is one capacity, and it can be turned outward at other people or inward at yourself.
Anger is a bit like a fire you have built around yourself. It keeps things away from you in the dark, and it also keeps you standing in a small circle.
Anger is a genuine body event, not a thought you can talk yourself out of mid-flow. Expect it to keep running for a while after you have decided it should stop.
Not every bit of anger is a problem to be solved. Two people squaring up over something that matters, or a mother going hard at whatever threatens her child, is anger doing exactly what it is for.