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Reactions that look wildly out of proportion usually are not, once you know what the moment resembled. A hand raised near a face, a certain tone, being cornered in a hallway: any of these can be an old event arriving again rather than a new one being misjudged. Without that history you are guessing at triggers. With it, what seemed baffling becomes predictable, and predictable is something you can work with.
Those who undeservedly insult believing men and women will bear the guilt of slander and flagrant sin (Quran 33:58). What was done to a person is counted, so it is no surprise that it still lives in them.
الأحزاب
وَٱلَّذِينَ يُؤۡذُونَ ٱلۡمُؤۡمِنِينَ وَٱلۡمُؤۡمِنَٰتِ بِغَيۡرِ مَا ٱكۡتَسَبُواْ فَقَدِ ٱحۡتَمَلُواْ بُهۡتَٰنࣰ ا وَإِثۡمࣰ ا مُّبِينࣰ ا
and those who undeservedly insult believing men and women will bear the guilt of slander and flagrant sin
Qur’an 33:58read it in the library
Translation: M.A.S. Abdel Haleem, The Qur'an, Oxford University Press, 2004.
A systematic review of transdiagnostic structural, emotional and cognitive variables in antisocial disorders of adolescence sets out the factors that recur across explanatory models. What it gives you is a map of what tends to travel together, not a claim that one history causes one behaviour. Read it as a reason to take a proper history rather than a shortcut for skipping one.
Toro R, García-García J, Zaldívar-Basurto F. (2020). Antisocial Disorders in Adolescence and Youth, According to Structural, Emotional, and Cognitive Transdiagnostic Variables: A Systematic Review.. International journal of environmental research and public health doi
Strength of evidence: one line of research. A single study, or a theoretical account.
The mind keeps what once meant danger and sounds the alarm at anything that resembles it.
Do not open up a history of abuse in detail unless there is time and support enough to close it again afterwards.
Anger and fear are not two separate weathers. They run through much of the same equipment in the body, which is why the two can feel almost identical from the inside.
Stay a beginner on purpose. If you are still learning, being corrected costs you nothing, because you never claimed to be finished.
People do not only defend their bodies. We defend our reputations, our ideas, our sense of what is fair, and the body handles those as though something with teeth were on its way.