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The hardest anger to put down is the kind that feels morally correct. It arrives with a rush of certainty and the sense of being on the right side, and that combination is very hard to argue with.

You see it in political rows, online arguments, and anywhere a cause is involved. The difficulty is that two rewards are stacked together: the charge of the anger, and feeling like a good person for having it. Calming techniques do nothing at all here. The way in is through what you value, usually by asking honestly whether the way you are fighting is serving the thing you say you care about.

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