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People come back with all sorts: restful, stressful because my head is so fast, mostly sounds and aches rather than thoughts, strangely reassuring. None of those is the wrong answer. If someone says the thoughts felt like just thoughts, without all the meaning stuck to them, that one is worth pausing on, because that is the thing the whole practice is for.
God does not change the condition of a people [for the worse] unless they change what is in themselves (Quran 13:11). An honest report of what is actually inside is where any change has to start.
الرعد
لَهُۥ مُعَقِّبَٰتࣱ مِّنۢ بَيۡنِ يَدَيۡهِ وَمِنۡ خَلۡفِهِۦ يَحۡفَظُونَهُۥ مِنۡ أَمۡرِ ٱللَّهِۗ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ لَا يُغَيِّرُ مَا بِقَوۡمٍ حَتَّىٰ يُغَيِّرُواْ مَا بِأَنفُسِهِمۡۗ وَإِذَآ أَرَادَ ٱللَّهُ بِقَوۡمࣲ سُوٓءࣰ ا فَلَا مَرَدَّ لَهُۥۚ وَمَا لَهُم مِّن دُونِهِۦ مِن وَالٍ
each person has guardian angels before him and behind, watching over him by God’s command. God does not change the condition of a people [for the worse] unless they change what is in themselves, but if He wills harm on a people, no one can ward it off–– apart from Him, they have no protector
Qur’an 13:11read it in the library
Translation: M.A.S. Abdel Haleem, The Qur'an, Oxford University Press, 2004.
In a study spanning ages 10 to 23, emotional reactivity fell with age while the ability to reinterpret a situation improved, and sensitivity to rejection peaked in mid adolescence. People differ in a patterned way in how a moment lands and what they can do with it, so different reports from the same exercise are expected. These were laboratory tasks, so they describe general trends rather than the person in front of you.
Silvers JA, McRae K, Gabrieli JD, Gross JJ, Remy KA, Ochsner KN. (2012). Age-related differences in emotional reactivity, regulation, and rejection sensitivity in adolescence.. Emotion (Washington, D.C.) doi
Strength of evidence: one line of research. A single study, or a theoretical account.
An open question keeps this an experiment, and experiments are harder to fail than tests.
There is no accuracy to aim for here and nothing to beat. Every dot means you got back to the bank, and that is the entire scoring system.
Anger often grows after the moment that started it, with nothing new added. The system amplifies its own signal, insisting that this is big, pay attention, react.
Do not write down what the thought was. No words, no summaries, just the mark. This is not journaling and nobody is going to ask you what came up.