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This is why paying attention is not a separate hobby from being kind. They are the same work. Put the phone face down, look up when someone starts speaking, and you will catch the flicker that tells you how they actually are. Then you can ask about it gently, which is often all anyone wanted.
to feed at a time of hunger (Quran 90:14). The timing is part of it. The moment someone needs you is short, and you have to be looking to catch it.
البلد
أَوۡ إِطۡعَٰمࣱ فِي يَوۡمࣲ ذِي مَسۡغَبَةࣲ
to feed at a time of hunger
Qur’an 90:14read it in the library
Translation: M.A.S. Abdel Haleem, The Qur'an, Oxford University Press, 2004.
A systematic review found that mindfulness and emotional intelligence are related in healthcare professionals and students, and discusses both as protective factors for the people doing that work. The studies are largely cross-sectional, so which way the link runs is unclear. It sits comfortably with the idea that attention and reading people go together, without showing that one produces the other.
Jiménez-Picón N, Romero-Martín M, Ponce-Blandón JA, Ramirez-Baena L, Palomo-Lara JC, Gómez-Salgado J. (2021). The Relationship between Mindfulness and Emotional Intelligence as a Protective Factor for Healthcare Professionals: Systematic Review.. International journal of environmental research and public health doi
Strength of evidence: one line of research. A single study, or a theoretical account.
You cannot respond to something you never saw.
A good story about the brain is not evidence. Before you pass one on, especially to people who trust you, it is worth knowing whether it happened the way you tell it.
There is more than one way into someone else's world. You can picture yourself in their place, picture them in it, or simply let their state affect you, and the three do not feel the same or lead to the same place.
There is a particular relief in hearing a room of strangers admit the same frightened thing you have never said aloud. It is why groups reach people that advice does not.