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Generosity, honesty, patience, prayer. Pick one, name it, and let it show in the house.
Enjoin prayer upon your family and be steadfast in it (Qur'an 20:132). A shared value, tended together, is the family's spine.
طه
وَأۡمُرۡ أَهۡلَكَ بِٱلصَّلَوٰةِ وَٱصۡطَبِرۡ عَلَيۡهَاۖ لَا نَسۡـَٔلُكَ رِزۡقࣰ اۖ نَّحۡنُ نَرۡزُقُكَۗ وَٱلۡعَٰقِبَةُ لِلتَّقۡوَىٰ
Order your people to pray, and pray steadfastly yourself. We are not asking you to give Us provision;We provide for you, and the rewards of the Hereafter belong to the devout
Qur’an 20:132read it in the library
Translation: M.A.S. Abdel Haleem, The Qur'an, Oxford University Press, 2004.
Gottman's shared meaning rests partly on the values a home is understood to stand for. Choosing one together and living it for a week gives the household a character you both recognise.
John M. Gottman; Nan Silver (1999). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Crown
Principle 7, Create Shared Meaning. Marriage has a spiritual dimension built from rituals of connection, shared roles, goals and symbols, and a couple with a common sense of purpose weathers conflict that would otherwise divide them.
Strength of evidence: one line of research. A single study, or a theoretical account.
Explicit shared values give a family a spine and a shared story.
Where this sits: Gottman method, Create Shared Meaning; the shared values and symbols pillar.